When people come into your life, it opens up new horizons of happiness and bliss. You are in seventh heaven, you'll have an aesthetic perspective of the world. This applies to basically anyone you care about. Often, and I say often just because I've seen enough to believe this, we find ourselves forced to leave people behind. Now this is the Bitter part of the 'Bittersweet' phrase you might've come across. You will always carry memories of the times you've spent, the life you've lived and the experiences you've shared. It does seem very bleak at the beginning.
As days turn into months and months into years, it is still difficult to understand how to detach yourself from the people of your past and to accept the reality that they will no longer be part of your present . Even more difficult is to grapple with the concept of how someone you've known all this time can leave so easily. Here comes the break in POVs(point of views). Now there are two halves of a whole, two stories, two narrations, two individuals with a rift in-between them and the rest of the people picking sides to sympathize upon or scowl at. Its all a big mess, you think of ways to deal with it, you feel like only yesterday you were in that seventh heaven, how and when it all crashed down, you wont find answers and it's okay to not know all answers(cliche overdose?) .
People who make up such a large part of your life at one point are not always meant to be in your life forever. Yes there are beautiful exceptions , bless them all :) As John Green observes so beautifully "Some infinities are bigger than other infinities."
Sometimes, those people come into your life for a brief moment in time —however brief— and then, they are gone. And in a moment, the people in whom you invested your precious time turn into mere memories stored somewhere in the back of your mind.
In a way, those people in your past became your family and you probably find yourself struggling to let them go. They gave you advice when you needed guidance. They were the first and last things on your mind on a daily basis. They stood against the entire world for you. They gave you hugs when you felt alone. They gave you unique experiences that defined a stage of your life. Most of all, however, these people gave you a sense of comfort, a small warmth in your chest, in this unfamiliar and unpredictable journey that we call life.
When you return back to those people and those places, you realize that your connection to those people and to those memories still holds strong. While you may have left and may have a new life completely unlike your past, those connections do not break. Just because you are separated from a person, does not mean that those memories somehow become void. A small encounter with the past and BAM! Your mind bursts with memories, unimaginable pain blinds your thoughts and all you could do about it is smile sadly, because along with the happy memories you are again facing those questions, as to why it all happened. The scars of the past tingle freshly in your mind. It is in these instances when you’ll realize the importance of these people in your life.
The moments you shared meant something — and they still mean something. You are subject to an internal battle to understand how the people you once loved are now not with you , how they are leading life on some other path, with someone else .
While you’re not sure it will ever get easier, it is comforting to know that at any point, you can stop and remember the experiences you shared together. Its a personal choice frankly, but its the best thing you can do . No good bringing more hate into this world. Take a trip down the memory lane(more like highway). Look at pictures , Look at those gifts , visit those places which were special to you . Try remembering those times, those magic moments, because they deserve to be cherished. That's the closure you can give to any relation.
I hate to say this, If 'hope' had a small '*' implying 'Terms and conditions apply', it is this scenario. Don't HOPE for any dramatic bollywood twist that suddenly sets your life right, it won't, because this is life, not a fairy tale.
As days turn into months and months into years, it is still difficult to understand how to detach yourself from the people of your past and to accept the reality that they will no longer be part of your present . Even more difficult is to grapple with the concept of how someone you've known all this time can leave so easily. Here comes the break in POVs(point of views). Now there are two halves of a whole, two stories, two narrations, two individuals with a rift in-between them and the rest of the people picking sides to sympathize upon or scowl at. Its all a big mess, you think of ways to deal with it, you feel like only yesterday you were in that seventh heaven, how and when it all crashed down, you wont find answers and it's okay to not know all answers(cliche overdose?) .
People who make up such a large part of your life at one point are not always meant to be in your life forever. Yes there are beautiful exceptions , bless them all :) As John Green observes so beautifully "Some infinities are bigger than other infinities."
Sometimes, those people come into your life for a brief moment in time —however brief— and then, they are gone. And in a moment, the people in whom you invested your precious time turn into mere memories stored somewhere in the back of your mind.
In a way, those people in your past became your family and you probably find yourself struggling to let them go. They gave you advice when you needed guidance. They were the first and last things on your mind on a daily basis. They stood against the entire world for you. They gave you hugs when you felt alone. They gave you unique experiences that defined a stage of your life. Most of all, however, these people gave you a sense of comfort, a small warmth in your chest, in this unfamiliar and unpredictable journey that we call life.
When you return back to those people and those places, you realize that your connection to those people and to those memories still holds strong. While you may have left and may have a new life completely unlike your past, those connections do not break. Just because you are separated from a person, does not mean that those memories somehow become void. A small encounter with the past and BAM! Your mind bursts with memories, unimaginable pain blinds your thoughts and all you could do about it is smile sadly, because along with the happy memories you are again facing those questions, as to why it all happened. The scars of the past tingle freshly in your mind. It is in these instances when you’ll realize the importance of these people in your life.
The moments you shared meant something — and they still mean something. You are subject to an internal battle to understand how the people you once loved are now not with you , how they are leading life on some other path, with someone else .
While you’re not sure it will ever get easier, it is comforting to know that at any point, you can stop and remember the experiences you shared together. Its a personal choice frankly, but its the best thing you can do . No good bringing more hate into this world. Take a trip down the memory lane(more like highway). Look at pictures , Look at those gifts , visit those places which were special to you . Try remembering those times, those magic moments, because they deserve to be cherished. That's the closure you can give to any relation.
I hate to say this, If 'hope' had a small '*' implying 'Terms and conditions apply', it is this scenario. Don't HOPE for any dramatic bollywood twist that suddenly sets your life right, it won't, because this is life, not a fairy tale.
We change, sometimes we move on and very often, we simply grow. As we grow, we realize that all people are not permanent fixtures in our lives, that they can be fleeting glimpses of happiness, love and comfort. It is a difficult concept to grasp that people we consider to be constant in our lives may not be here for us tomorrow. But it is essential to have that knowledge.
When we begin to understand that relationships are not always meant to last, we can also have a deeper appreciation for the experiences we share with people while they are in our lives. Though it may sadden you to consider the end of a relationship, you can begin to appreciate the people in your life for the sheer reason that they exist in your present. People come and go, but memories last forever.
The lessons people teach us and the hardships they help us overcome are never forgotten. These memories become permanent parts of us and continue to shape who we become. Just because a relationship does not last does not mean that it is insignificant in any way. It is not the amount of time these relationships last that is important, but instead, it is the ability to remember them. Don't count your days , count your memories(corny but true).
If we can accept this, our lives will be filled with vast moments of appreciation. Appreciation for each relationship in its entirety and the uniqueness of the moments that you share together — appreciation for the present,
When we begin to understand that relationships are not always meant to last, we can also have a deeper appreciation for the experiences we share with people while they are in our lives. Though it may sadden you to consider the end of a relationship, you can begin to appreciate the people in your life for the sheer reason that they exist in your present. People come and go, but memories last forever.
The lessons people teach us and the hardships they help us overcome are never forgotten. These memories become permanent parts of us and continue to shape who we become. Just because a relationship does not last does not mean that it is insignificant in any way. It is not the amount of time these relationships last that is important, but instead, it is the ability to remember them. Don't count your days , count your memories(corny but true).
If we can accept this, our lives will be filled with vast moments of appreciation. Appreciation for each relationship in its entirety and the uniqueness of the moments that you share together — appreciation for the present,
the whole 'Live-in-the-moment' thing.
Leaving people behind is never easy — it never feels right to move on to the next chapter. But, as life goes on, so do we, and just because we leave people, it does not mean we must forget the times we shared. It does not mean that all those things must be lost in some unknown abyss.
All we can do is to remember and All we can ask is to be remembered.
#Coldplay #FixYou
When the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can't replace
When you love someone but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?
Leaving people behind is never easy — it never feels right to move on to the next chapter. But, as life goes on, so do we, and just because we leave people, it does not mean we must forget the times we shared. It does not mean that all those things must be lost in some unknown abyss.
All we can do is to remember and All we can ask is to be remembered.
#Coldplay #FixYou
When the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can't replace
When you love someone but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
I will try to fix you..
And ignite your bones
I will try to fix you..
